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Umme's daughters name with teddy bear and toy train

Umme was helped by the Charity many years ago. Still learning how to cope with the grief of losing a child, she now feels ready to tell her story.

Umme started working for the Civil Service in 2005. As a young, driven woman, she worked hard to progress within the Department for Work and Pensions. In addition to having a successful career, Umme also wanted a family. She quickly fell pregnant with twins and celebrated with her husband. Sadly, it wasn’t meant to be and she miscarried just a few weeks later. After picking herself up and trying to move forward, she fell pregnant again. This time, she gave birth to a baby girl and named her Hamidah. She was just 23 weeks into her pregnancy.

“She only weighed 500 grams because she was so premature. We called her our little bag of sugar. As soon as I gave birth, I was constantly by her side in intensive care.”

Although the doctors did everything they could to save Hamidah’s life, she tragically passed away just three days later. In the Muslim community, it’s tradition to bury deceased loved ones as soon as possible and therefore funeral plans had to be made quickly.

“She died on the Saturday and we were able to bury her on the Sunday. Luckily, the people who worked at the mosque said we could pay the funeral costs later but we were already struggling financially. We just couldn’t afford it.”

Umme’s work friends wanted to help and suggested she get in touch with the Charity. After a supportive conversation with our team, we found that we were able to provide financial support to the family during this difficult time. Umme and her husband finally had the space to rebuild the world around them after saying goodbye to their baby girl.

In more recent years, Umme and her husband have had a healthy baby boy who they describe as their “ease after great hardships.” With her strong family unit behind her, Umme is now ready to talk about what happened. By doing so, she is uniting serving and former civil servants and supporting grieving parents across the UK.

“I didn’t want anyone to know anything at the time. But now, eight years later, I feel ready. It’s important to share my story if it means I can help other people. I want to give back to the Charity in whatever way I can.”

“The Charity has always helped the most vulnerable in our community. I want people to know that they changed my life for the better when I needed them most... and they're continuing to work hard to do the same for others. If it's possible, please donate what you can so they can continue to support us all.”

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