When Atila got the call that his brother had died, he didn’t have time to grieve. Just a few months later, he was told his mum only had six months to live.
His Mum, Seniha, had struggled with vascular dementia for years and Atila had been juggling full time caring responsibilities with a demanding job in The Ministry of Defence.
“My mum lived with me for ten years before she passed away. It was difficult at times because her dementia made her aggressive and abusive towards me. But I knew it wasn’t really her. I’m proud that I cared for her.”
This was not the only health condition that massively impacted both of their lives. Seniha also had leukemia and had contracted C. difficile, a bacterial infection of the bowels which can be severely contagious. Atila would often stay up most of the night in an attempt to make his mum as comfortable as possible before facing a day’s work in the Civil Service. Their close bond was stronger than any medical diagnoses they faced together and Atila cared for her until the very end.
“That tragic chain of events had a profound impact on my life. When she died, I didn’t have enough money to pay for her funeral. I was embarrassed about my circumstances and didn’t want to talk to anyone about it. I didn’t know where to go or who to turn to.”
That’s when Atila decided to get in touch with the Charity. After talking to one of our advisors about his situation, we found that we were able to provide financial support to cover the costs of his Mum’s funeral. We were also able to pay towards the replacement of essential household items that had been contaminated by his mum’s illness.
“Talking to the Charity was a turning point for me. I felt like they were sincerely interested in trying to help me. They took the time to listen to me and gave me clear, solid advice and support. The truth is, they reminded me that I wasn’t alone.”
Atila was finally able to say goodbye to his Mum in the way he hoped. Since this difficult time in his life, he continues to dedicate himself to his career, family and friends as he did before. As a Charity, and his Charity, we are proud to help a key member of our community like Atila, back on their feet.
“I hope anyone reading my story will realise how important it is to donate to this incredible Charity. They save lives. They saved my life. There is no doubt in my mind that they put me back together again and I will be forever grateful.”